IDENTIFY (and get rid of) TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

Oh this is a difficult topic. But let's face it, we all have those people in our lives that zap our energy and make us wonder why we just can't shake loose. Sometimes they're friends from childhood, family members or even professional connections we're afraid to lose. Kris Carr, (one of our heros for her 'Crazy, Sexy Cancer' book and rockstar philosophy), is spot on with this article. Check it out HERE.

INSTANT SELF-ESTEEM BOOSTERS (and we all need these)!

It's easy to feel good about ourselves when our relationship is working, our careers are humming along and we're feeling balanced and vibrant. But those days aren't always the norm. We struggle with various parts of our lives and ourselves, that tear at the fabric of who we think we are and what we're capable of. Right on cue, MindBodySpirit has a short list of Self-Esteem boosters. Give them a whirl (especially the forgiving yourself part). READ IT HERE.

LIFE EXPERIENCE IS WHERE IT'S AT!

At MFJ, we're always looking for articles and resources to help us all live better, more fulfilled lives. That's why I nearly jumped for joy reading this blog on the HuffPost! Now there's proof that when all is said and done, it's the experiences we CREATE in life that make us happiest. That can include anything from hanging with your best gal pal to meditating on that cool urban trail. See if you're inspired and share with us! READ IT HERE.

DELETE THIS WORD FROM YOUR VOCABULARY:

As we plan our lives, we often aim to be what others expect of us, even to the expense of our happiness. If you're on a journey committed to being your authentic self, there's one word you'll want to delete from your vocabulary forever: it's that ugly word--- should. If you need some convincing, this article gives great examples of how shoulds wear away at the fabric of our inner lives, and ways we can liberate ourselves and others by trashing the term for good. HERE

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NEW YEAR INSPIRATION!

By now it has probably sunk in: 2014 is in full swing! At My Friend Jill, we want to make this the best year yet and have some exciting new offerings in the works. To kick off our blog this year, Instead of giving you a big rah-rah speech on how to keep your resolutions, I thought these inspirational quotes might be a better option. They're colorful, inspirational and good reminders of how you get to choose the kind of year this will be. Make it amazing!!! And check out the article HERE.

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HAPPINESS AT THE TOUCH OF A SCREEN

No, I'm not talking about My Friend Jill (although there could be solid proof for that)! I'm referring to a new online site called Happify that's using science to make us all a little more joyful!  The site offer confidence boosting activities, positive word animations, and step-by-step tracking towards your goals. And with 250 million Google searches a year for happiness topics, and more than 23,000 books about well-being on Amazon– we're apparently all looking to find the secret mixture.  CHECK IT OUT HERE

FRIENDSHIP RULES TO LIVE BY

Over the years, I've developed my own personal set of friendship rules. One being quality over quantity. That was a hard one, actually. I always thought different friends suited different needs, and a large variety keeps life fun and interesting. As I've gained a few years however, I realize that spreading myself thin only creates surface level interactions– and if I want to be deeply connected, I must choose friends and the time I invest wisely. Check out this cool article on rules for friendship. I especially liked #3. READ IT HERE

THE GREEN-EYED MONSTER... BETWEEN FRIENDS

I've promised this Journal would be about real musings on real life. Even if you won't admit it, I bet you've listened to your closest friends relay some great news about something amazing that just happened and instead of feeling joy, you silently drown in envy. Yep, that's ugly. And apparently most of us have been there. I sighed some relief to read I wasn't the only one and to find some ways to cope with the green-eyed monster at its root. READ IT HERE 

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WHY YOU SHOULD GET NAKED EVERY DAY

Maybe it's my years living in and out of Europe, but my perception on naked bodies has changed from the 'cover up your goodies at all times' mentality to 'we've all got the same stuff' realization (thank goodness!!) One thing that hasn't changed however, is the endless discussions I have with friends about how we all struggle with our weight, our short legs, thick waists, how and where gravity pulls...it's exhausting! That's why I loved this article on MindBodyGreen about the joys of being naked and why we all need to bask in the buff! Read it. It's surprisingly encouraging (and a little bit liberating). READ IT HERE 

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GET OUT OF STUCK-VILLE

Ok, I was trying to be witty with the title, but it's not so funny when despite your best efforts, nothing you do is pushing you towards your goals. Maybe now that the holidays are blowing in on autumn breezes, it's the time to re-evaluate and reconsider. After all, it is the season for change-- and it's all in how you view it. Are you afraid of impending dormancy or playing in the colorful transitions? I loved these suggestions for getting out of that stuck place and into something better. Check it out HERE

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photo by: electric nerve

INTIMACY IS THE SECRET

It's true–when people use the word intimacy, they're often referring to a romantic partnership. But I've always used this term (and at times, have gotten confused looks) to speak about another kind of universal human bonding that adds texture and vibrancy to our interactions. It's that feel-good, real time connection you lock into when your heart remains open and you're fully present. That's why I loved finding this article from the Huffington Post. See how intimacy can infuse all parts of your friendships and your life with magic HERE

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CHOOSING TO BE LONELY?

Loneliness is a choice. I guess that's somewhat obvious but as many of us have found, making long-lasting friendships when you're older can be difficult. We're no longer just looking for party pals to hang out and pick up cute boys. We also want those go-to girls when the world is yucky and confusing. That's why I resonated with this story. It reminded me if we want good friends-- we have to show up as one first.     READ HERE  

GETTING OLDER IS A BLESSING

I know, I know. Many of you are shaking your heads in disbelief. But I have a whole new view on how my years packed full of angst, learnings, flirting, tears, travel and success (in all forms!) has benefited me. Check out Sister Joan Chittister's insightful article and start reframing your life's experiences, HERE   

image by Brian Everett / Used by Creative Commons License

image by Brian Everett / Used by Creative Commons License

FINDING OUT WHO YOUR TRUE FRIENDS ARE

Sure, you have lots of friends but do you ever wonder which ones are True Blue versus those you keep just for Friday night happy hour? Apparently, there are different types of friends we should all keep in our lives. The trick is just learning whose number to have on speed dial when things go upside down. MindBodyGreen has it HERE.

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FRIENDSHIP IS GREAT FOR YOUR HEALTH!

We all know how friendships add connection, warmth and feel-good energy to our lives but now science is proving it! To kick off Jill's Journal, I set out to find the health benefits of maintaining relationships with our favorite gal pals. Mayo Clinic has the answer (and they've even included tips on how to be a better friend). READ IT HERE 

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